So Long, Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us

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• November 14, 2012

  Hi Beth,

  I just finished reading your book. I am so thankful for this book. I really felt alone for so long with this inner silent battle. I thought maybe I was the only one with this chronic persistent insecurity. This book was amazing and has opened my eyes as well as my heart to the truth. The truth is God’s Word. I am a recently saved christian, and every day I am learning more. The more I read about God’s Word, the more at peace I feel. God took me down some very difficult roads, and looking back I see the purpose and why he did. I am becoming more wise and strong every day of my journey here. I can be free from this bondage of insecurity. I can be free from past mistakes and hurt. I can be free from the ALL of the lies the enemy has told me. I AM FREE, and lord I thank you!

  

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• July 9, 2012

  Dear Beth,
  Thank you for writing these words and listening to your heart. It took me just over thirteen months to read it and wade through the swamp! I would read and have to put it down it was so intense. God spoke to me a year and a half ago that I struggle with TRUST and I had no idea that insecurity played that much of a role in my life. I feel that I am no longer bound by these lies I have told myself, lies that the enemy has told me, and past mistakes that the enemy reminds me about. I have Jesus and He is my security. I feel better able to live a confident life in Christ…not worried about what other people are thinking about me. I also have walked a difficult but rewarding road of forgiving others and asking for forgiveness. I see other people in a different light. What a wonderful and amazing journey! I am just praising God for fulfilling His promise of making me new!

  

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• May 5, 2012

  I am just starting this journey of sending off my insecurities, here it goes. Insecurities, GOODBYE! You have no place in my life. I am tired of the way you make me feel frozen with fear, you cause me to be SO INCREDIBLY SOCIALLY AWKWARD, you have thwarted my confidence in Christ, you wreak havoc in my attempt to have deep friendships with other women because I am fearful that anyone who truly gets to know me would not actually want to be friends with me. I am tired of not being able to carry on conversation in fear that anything I say will not be right or good enough. I AM TIRED OF NOT FEELING GOOD ENOUGH!!!!! I am so over feeling UNWORTHY!!!!! I am tired of feeling like I can’t be myself and wondering who I am anymore! I am exhausted from comparing my life to others’ and measuring my existence based on others’ accomplishments. The only good thing I have to say about you, insecurity, is that you’ve brought me to a broken, broken state, where I can rebuild from on CHRIST, no other confidence. That, I am grateful for. Moving forward I pledge to find security and confidence in Christ, not myself or my circumstances, and accept grace along the way. Jesus, I move forward in you, knowing you want security for my heart and in you is the only place I can find a security that lasts.

  

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• April 19, 2012

  I am so ready to let go of all the jealousy and insecurities that have consumed me my entire married life. Release me, Lord, from all my insecurities, release me from my inner demons that torment me everyday telling me that I am worth nothing! That no one could really love me. That I am not smart, not pretty, not outgoing enough. Allow me to truly feel the love that my husband and children have for me. Allow me to love myself like I have never been able to before. I want to love myself like YOU love me!! Good BYE insecurity and jealousy!! I am claiming inner peace, true love for myself, and freedom from ALL my demons, in the name of Jesus Christ!

  

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• February 15, 2012

  I surrendered my insecurities when I excepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior on Feb.5,2012. I am so happy and secure in my life now after reading your book in my bible study. I have great lady’s that were there for me as I went through this journey and they blessed me with knowing Jesus Christ and excepting him as my Lord and Savior.

  

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• February 10, 2012

  Okay. I’m 17. I’ve got my whole life ahead of me. And insecurity, you don’t have a part in my future. I’ve fought this battle long enough, and I can’t do it anymore. I’ve been made a fool of. You make me feel like everyone hates me. I feel ignored, and unwanted. You’ve made me fall into a depression that I never want to go back to. And, I claim victory over my life! I’m tired of the daily struggle. I have power over you! And today is the day I start my new life, without you! I AM secure! I AM wanted! I AM a fearless person! And with God fighting for me, you stand no chance. I’ve tried SO many times to get rid of you. And you just keep creeping in. But today is the day I get my joy and my freedom back!So, guess what?! SO LONG, INSECURITY! I will never revolve my life around you again!
  -Kayla

  

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• February 4, 2012

  I am ridding myself of my insecurity that my husband doesnt love me. He has things on his mind and bad days too. That doesnt mean he doesnt care for me. It also doesnt mean there is someone else. Just because that was the end of a previous relationship with someone else does not mean my husband is that same person. I also need to realized that people are not talking about me when I leave a room. I am stong and secure!

  

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• January 17, 2012

  I am confidently saying SO LONG INSECURITY! You better be lucky I am saying goodbye to you other times I had friends like you and I just left them without any contact just avoidance BUT you were driving that ship too. Because of you I was unable to face the goodbyes in my life. So I am saying GOOD RIDDENS! You never had my best interest at heart and I realize that you NEVER will. Later…….

  

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• December 4, 2011

  Greetings To My Sisters In Christ!

  Ya know, sad to say, yet I don’t recall making a single decision of significance or importance, before I was thirty, that was not based on fear. What was the least frightening choice? Okay, I’d take it; unless hiding was an option of course. No doubt you will not be shocked to learn, particularly in relationship decisions, my voices were DISASTEROUS! Did I say that loud enough? Oh,in the “World’s Eyes” I was successful enough. Very successful. Yet I was a mess with a capital M! In some fairness to myself, I was of the world. I was a true blue “seeker” who settled for “spiritual”. I don’t ever recall hearing the Gospel or receiving an “Invitation to Christ”. I carried the Bible with me one year, in high school everywhere (not cool) yet I could the words were “gibberish” when I tried to read it (mind you I could read great works of classic literature, but not the Bible). I begged rides to chuch, attended two major college campuses… On the story goes. No one approached me and I did not meet Jesus until my personal relational life crashed, alone on my living room floor, with no Bible, face down… being wooed with every tear wiped away, as Jesus then called on me and had my full attention and surrender. No looking back. Praise God!

  Fast forward, now I am fifty-ish, still an avid, madly in love follower of Christ, yet I see clearly I have made a full circle back to that pattern of fear and incapacitating insecurity. I never identified nor turned over that area of of my life that feels like breathing, like the skin I wear… self hatred and insecurity. I have recreated, even while walking with Christ, the same pattern as I did before my thirties, over and over again. I have been so unaware of the core of this issue, that I’ve typically made it pretty enough to fool others, if not myself. Blind and unable to see. I’ve now got myself cornered, with Christ allowing it as a means to open my eyes, with no way out but through Him and addressing this area, well, giving this area of my life ( and any other nasty, stinky old things I find lurking in the corners) one hundred and fifty percent to Him, for grace, hope, healing, and His loving touch.

  This is an especially challenging time because I am older now, less room, health, years (God willing), and so on to salvage. Younger Sisters hit this area big time with our Lord now, because there is just that much more wasted… and the job at hand is all the more daunting. I’m scared as I can be, because the stakes are high and the damage profoundly deep. But, isn’t that just like Jesus? He can now use this, with my full attention and agreement, to drag me over glass if He must, to bring about full restoration in my life?

  Will you please lift me up, love me from afar, and pray for me, as I shall all of you? You better believe I need it. I’m going to have to hold on tight (to Him!) for this ride. I have zero accountability partners or friends, nor family, that are going to love me to health in Him, any more, on this earth. I thank you in advance, in that I sense everyone of your sincerity, that we’re going to stand up for eachother on this one.

  

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• November 21, 2011

  My insecurity manifests itself in 2 ways: I have often said “I am not a chic” meaning that I don’t behave like a ‘girl’. This is because I feel a certain kinship with men in many respects – I don’t understand shopping, cooking, makeup, etc. obsessions, and I think I feel a certain superiority to women who do obssess over those things.

  My other insecurity has to do with health. If I get a bruise, I have leukemia. If I have a pain, I have cancer. If I get a fever, I have septicemia. I surf the web looking for what my various “symptoms” mean. I don’t usually follow that up with a visit to a doctor, but I worry.

  So, how am I using the information in the book to conquer these insecurities? I focus on the fact that I am fearfully and wonderfully made – as a woman. My womanhood is not tied up in the external things that classify me that way, and being a woman is not inherently weak. God made me a woman on purpose, and he wants me to live as the woman he made. Not a woman trying desperately to be a man, but as a woman.

  For the worry…the chapter on trust totally floored me. Lord, I DO trust you. Even IF I am sick, I know you have me in your hand. IF I am not sick (which is actually generally the case, thankfully ) I do not need to obssess over my health. I am committing to only seeking medical help in true emergencies (bleeding that won’t stop, unconsciousness, or accidents) and not to waste time that could be better spent in other places surfing the web for some quirky illness. I don’t need affirmation from others that I am ok through their compassion for me because of some illness. I need only to focus on God’s compassion me. Isn’t enough that I am a sinner saved by grace? Is there any sickness that has been more pervasive or difficult to overcome? God’s compassion is enough. He is revealing these insecurities to me, not so I will spend more time focusing on them, but so that I will rely on him to move past them.

  Thank you, Lord, for helping me to see these insecurities in the light of your mercy and love. I have this treasure. I am clothed in strength and dignity. And I will LAUGH at the days to come.

  

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